Career Change Myths #1 Staying In My Crap Job Is The Real World

16th Sep 2011 | Leave a remark Career Change Myths #1: “Staying in my crap job is the ‘real’ world” When I grew to become a management marketing consultant there was part of me that felt I’d made it. I’d walk into these shiny workplaces with my laptop and just for a second, I felt like I was going someplace. That is, if I didn’t suppose too onerous about what I was doing. When I did, I just advised myself it was only five days til the weekend and seven weeks to my subsequent vacation. But my alternative gave the impression to be: • Carry on, be properly off however sad; or • Leave my job and be worried about trying like a failure. I was desperate to be successful, so like a rabbit frozen in headlights I remained on this unusual limbo for about five years. And I can let you know, limbo is less fun than it generally seems. I remember at some point my boss requested me to go up some particularly meaningless new project and since I couldn’t say no outright, I decided to inform him about my doubts about my career. His reply stays with me to this day: “I’d love to do one thing extra interesting too, but I reside in the real world.” Mythbuster I hear the ‘real world’ argument so much. No doubt it makes us really feel higher by decreasing our cognitive dissonance, however in reality it’s received nothing to do with the true world. It’s an argument designed to keep you out of the true world, safely trapped inside a story in your own head. Ironically, profession dilemmas are sometimes outlined by a reluctance to establish what a person truly desires in the real world. After all, there’s comfort in not figuring out or making an attempt, as a result of then we will’t fail. Looking again, I see that I wished to be an excellent individual, but I wasn’t ready to exhibit any of the character traits of an excellent individual. I wanted success, however I saw it as someone else’s job to identify my potential, or for the world to offer me opportunities. This is about as far from being ‘real world’ as possible. And it left me a passive recip ient of whatever other folks thought I’d be good at. Unless you fancy a spot of limbo, the true question (which I was avoiding), is pretty simple: What is it that you truly need? Career Change Your e mail address will not be revealed. Required fields are marked * Comment Name * Email * Website Save my name, e-mail, and web site in this browser for the subsequent time I remark. This website makes use of Akismet to cut back spam. Learn how your remark knowledge is processed. « What is Meaning in Work?... Career Change Myths #2: 'I sh... » Check your inbox or spam folder now to verify your subscription. © 2020 The Career Psychologist Website design and build by Pynk and Fluffy